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A Nigerian man based in the UK, has reportedly withdrawn from a marriage proposal due to a highly demanding traditional bride price list provided by the woman’s family.
The incident, shared by social media user Princess Adeola via her X handle, showed the man’s emotional struggle and sparked discussions about cultural practices that might deter potential suitors.
The bride price list, meant to honor the family, included items like drinks, livestock, clothing, and cash gifts for the bride’s extended family, totaling about N3.5 million.
The groom, eager to marry and willing to take the bride abroad and sponsor her education, was heartbroken to learn she supported her family’s demands, citing Nigeria’s rising cost of living.
He had been in a long-distance relationship with a Nigerian woman and sought advice from a social media influencer about marrying her.
Frustrated, he compared these demands to “selling a child” and wondered how a marriage could start with financial pressure. He believed that his plans to invest in the woman’s future abroad should have mattered more.
The post reads, “There’s this guy on my platform who met a lady here in Nigeria while he’s in the UK. Despite the challenges of a long-distance relationship, he was committed to her.”
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“He even sought my advice, and I encouraged him to go for it. But yesterday, he reached out to me, distraught, after receiving a bride price list from her family totaling N3.5 million.”
“We had a lengthy and emotional discussion. His pain wasn’t just the list itself but the fact that the woman he loves supports her family’s demands, claiming everything is expensive in Nigeria.”
“Why should anyone demand such an outrageous amount just for marriage? Doesn’t that set the tone for the man to treat her like he ‘bought’ her? It’s a shame, and I hope women learn from this. This man had genuine plans to take her abroad and pay for her education. Now, because of greed, the family has lost a good man.”
“He told me yesterday he’s no longer interested and plans to block her. He said he would cry, heal, and move on with his life. I feel bad for the lady—if only she had a more understanding family and stood up for herself. She’s about to lose a good man without even knowing it.”
See the post below:
Incase you can’t see properly from the chat, here it is. pic.twitter.com/n2dKRTtHnx
— Princess Adeola (@dearolaa) November 23, 2024
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